The point is that you can choose to link pleasure to whatever you want to.
If someone beats you, and succeeds in convincing you that this is an act of love, your brain will link pleasure to this situation and you know what’s next right :). It is the same thing with every behavior we tend to repeat. This is how the habit is created. The good news is that your brain is very powerful machine but you’ll have to learn to control it.
I’ve came to this conclusion before I quit smoking, and this thought start bothering me. I was not satisfied with myself after this conclusion, and from this perspective I believe this was the turning point for me. Suddenly I started to notice every little excuse I gave to myself, and how was I conditioned to smoking. Day after day I became more and more aware of the excuses that were in charge and rule over me. Very soon I start to research and begin to imagine how life would look like without a cigarette. It takes me more than a year to link that non-smoking is very COOL!
Now I’m a non-smoker, and I enjoy every second of more conscious “me”. I also enjoy that I can choose why, when and how can I feel in every moment.
This inspired me on something else, do you know that there is one big advantage that every smoker have over a non-smoker. Sounds stupid I know, but it’s true. The fact that you are a smoker now can be a big turning point for your entire life, imagine how much momentum you’ll gain for every other aspect in your life, if you succeed in quitting cigarettes. You’ll be more motivated and strong for every job in the future, because you quit this smoking habit, you are in charge now and in the future. You’ll believe in yourself more, and you’ll like yourself more. Isn’t this the essence of a good life?
Imagine my friend, just imagine!